“Life is bristling with thorns, and I know no other remedy than to cultivate one's garden.”
It’s an unfortunate truism that life has a tendency to provide experiences that are altogether unpleasant. These difficult life events are usually life changing from both a negative and/or positive perspective. Challenging events shape our lives, mould us into who we are, create our beliefs, structure our personality and create the lens in how we view the world.
It’s not an easy topic to broach because it’s natural for us to want to avoid the consequences of difficult life events. We push them into the background, hide them in our various closets, so the light of day doesn’t shine our awareness on what’s lurking in our past. This is a completely natural thing to do, to suppress hurt, pain, shame, fear, rage, sadness, because at the time we may not have had the skills or the opportunity to react appropriately when the difficult event occurred.
For some people the belief out of sight out of mind is the end of it and one simply moves on. Maybe for some this is the case, but at Counselling and Psychotherapy we don’t fully believe this because if past events come into the category of ‘unfinished business’ then the past does haunt us in ways we may not realise. Echo’s from the past can manifest as mental health difficulties, such as anxiety and depression or physical symptoms like migraines or digestive issues or personality constraints, for example, self-esteem or inhibition.
At Counselling and Psychotherapy we believe that difficult life events don’t have to hold us in their grip thus limiting our potential to be fully ourselves or become the person we envisage. The good news from our perspective is that what is locked in our bodies and minds can be released freeing the life force that’s sealed in maintaining various kinds of symptomology.
How is this achieved? Increasing research is demonstrating the role of the nervous system in connection to bound up energy associated with the ‘unfinished business’ of difficult life events. This locked energy is particularly allied to the sympathetic and part of the parasympathetic nervous system creating the symptoms described above. By gently working with the nervous system through a facilitated process that allows the release of blocked energy ameliorating the manifestations of physical and mental health problems. The release of an overloaded nervous system allows for a corrective adjustment to bring back healthy homeostatic functioning.
If you have experienced difficult life situations and would like counselling support then please contact one of our therapists.
May this day find you well.
Counselling and Psychotherapy Team