Change in our lives comes about when we loosen our fixed beliefs. This occurs when we are met in a palatable way rather than in a manner that needs to be endured. As Gestalt therapists we approach clients with an attitude of curiosity, openness, exploration and reflection. This supports clients to experience themselves in new ways of relating with others. Clients often say that they feel heard and empathically affirmed around their dread and fear, a kind of, surviving in the midst of their shared lived experience which feels liberating. This is the essence of what can be achieved in therapy.
What you can expect:
We enter into conversation with the intention to learn something new rather than trying to enlighten you. As therapists, attuning to our client’s experience is an attempt to understand how they make unique meaning of their own individual worlds. We reach across the differences and undergo the change ourselves. When words to define feelings and thoughts are stuck or hard to verbalize, we encourage the development of the client’s embodied response to support the deepening of one’s self awareness which often proves supportive and, at times, even liberating. One walks away having had an experience that was hopeful because their words have developed new meaning, become understandable and feelings shared.
Supporting clients at their growing edge – if they reveal an embarrassing story (perhaps feeling some shame), we ask ourselves what they might benefit from to support the unfolding of their story, their emotional story, because this is a space where they can practice sharing their emotional life.
We, as therapists, cannot presume that we have a knowing about clients as their experience is unique to them as individuals. We cannot ever fully comprehend the other’s experience because the manner with which they have made meaning is based on past experiences.
Learning how we co-create experiences opens our awareness to how our every day choices contribute to the events that occur in our lives. If we are dissatisfied with the relationships or the events that occur in our lives, with the right support, we can organise our experiences or interpret them differently.
Sometimes seeing SOMETHING NEW
means seeing SOMETHING OLD
in a NEW WAY!
The Oxford dictionary defines the word “support person” as “to give or be ready to give help to somebody if they need it”.
We can get this type of support from people that we feel comfortable with, that we know will listen with an open, non-judgemental heart.